We all know how the saying goes, “it’s not you- it’s me”. I’ve recently come to the conclusion that although I’ve heard that countless times coming out of the mouths of men I’ve texted for 72 hours after matching on Hinge ….that I should’ve been the one saying it all along.
Now, I don’t mean it in the same context that we’ve come to know. What I mean is “no you’re right, it’s not you carrying the good conversation skills and witty jokes… it quite literally is ME.”
None of the men I’ve rushed to text my friends and say ” I AM IN LOVE HIM!!” ” HE IS THE ONE” ” HE IS FUNNY AND WE CLICK” have ever truly encompassed any/ if at all those characteristics. Let me clarify by saying I don’t think every man I’ve had exchanges with is comparable to dry toast either, what I mean to say is although they may have a more humorous personality type it is truly me that shines. I could talk to a tadpole and have the time of my life- no really….ask anyone.
The moral of this rant is – recognize your part in the dating game and get comfortable with your role in it. If you’re the funny one STOP TELLING YOUR FRIENDS ITS THE DUDE YOU’RE TALKING TO THATS BLOWING YOU AWAY. STOP TELLING YOUR FRIENDS HES NICE WHEN YOUR THE ONE OFFERING TO MEET HIM BY HIS APARTMENT FOR DINNER. STOP TELLING YOUR FRIENDS HES THE FUNNY ONE WHEN YOU’RE SMILING AT YOUR PHONE AT YOUR OWN DAMN JOKES.
Ladies- ITS YOU! NOT HIM. ITS ALWAYS BEEN YOU.